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  • John 10:50 am on October 8, 2013 Permalink | Reply
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    Where Sharon Lived in '65 

    In April of ’65, she is listed in the phone book as “Sharon A. Gebenini” and living in these sweet apartments. In 1965, John and Sharon got married. Before their first date, she said that John picked some flowers from her neighbors garden and she could see him doing it.

    The address is just east of downtown L.A., where the 5 Freeway meets the I-10 San Bernardino Freeway. For what it’s worth…

    1118 Cornwell Street unit #5.

    1118 Cornwell Street unit #5.

     
  • John 10:47 am on September 25, 2013 Permalink | Reply
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    Where Sharon Lived in Glendale 

    Just a quick post to show where Sharon Holmes lived in Glendale in the early 90s. I could not find much else. Man, she sure loved Glendale. It does look pretty nice there though.

    Update: I am trying to get in touch with Barbara Richardson’s ex-husband for an interview. They were only married a short while in the late 1970s. Stay tuned, I’ll keep you posted. The interview with Nash’s bribed juror girl fell through.

    Early 90s.

    Early 90s.

     
    • criticextraordinaire 7:36 pm on September 25, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      It’s too bad that Sharon’s later years were not so good. Seems that her Alzheimer’s happened a fairly early age and progressed very quickly. I had a buddy who went similarly and died from Alzheimer’s complications at the age of 64. Sux. 😦

      • Tori 8:30 pm on September 25, 2013 Permalink | Reply

        Yeah it’s a shame. Sharon and dawn who is johns 15 year olds ex mistress was supposedly looking after her and was her guardian or something? Sharon didn’t pass did she?

        • criticextraordinaire 8:46 pm on September 25, 2013 Permalink

          Yeah Sharon passed away about a year ago.

        • Tori 1:44 pm on September 26, 2013 Permalink

          Yeah she wasn’t looking very good. I’m friends with dawn on fb and she had some pics with Sharon and just rdidnt look so well

    • Bonnie Brae 9:23 am on September 26, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      The place she lived with John and Dawn on Acacia had a giant moving truck in the street when I drove there so the pic I collected is close up and of the address. 1010 acacia in Glendale. The bungalows were torn down.

      • John 10:11 am on September 26, 2013 Permalink | Reply

        Gotcha, cool. Is that when Gayle went with you? The condos or apt’s which are there now look pretty sweet.

        • Bonnie Brae 7:06 pm on September 26, 2013 Permalink

          lol – yes.
          of course. She is always with me.
          My sister thought you were in town a few weeks ago and asked if we were taking you to lunch.

    • criticextraordinaire 5:38 pm on September 27, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      John, got any idea why Sharon moved around so much? Looks like 3 places in 3 years. In 1991 I would imagine she was still working as a nurse, she was not all that old.

      • John W 5:55 pm on September 27, 2013 Permalink | Reply

        No my friend, I pondered that also. I can only imagine she had the rent raised when the lease was up or her roommates kept bailing. Not too strange, I had moved to different apt’s after one year leases several time. Maybe she didn’t like her neighbors or found better deals elsewhere through an apartment locator.

        • Tori 1:33 am on September 28, 2013 Permalink

          Hey guys I’m going up to Hollywood again tomorrow . Was gonna make some stops if their is anything anybody wants specific pictures of or any other addresses that would be cool to look it..

          Hey john do u have the exact address to nashes doña Lola house ?

        • Vicki Mitchell 12:05 am on March 11, 2020 Permalink

          I agree. Back in the 70-80’s, one could easily move cheaper than pay for rent increases. No more.

        • Alke 11:38 am on April 23, 2020 Permalink

          3315 Dona Lola

    • Beth 8:50 am on September 30, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      Curious about Barbara Richardson, I saw the entries on Find a Grave about her, thought it was interesting that her father buried her under her maiden name of Easton. It’s got me wondering if there was some animosity towards this ex husband, from what I read on Find a Grave, a cousin of hers or something said she was “good” girl type before she got into drugs. Wonder if the ex husband introduced her to this world and that’s why the parents might not have liked him? I understand her father’s name was “Leroy”? Anyone know what her mother’s name was and did she have any siblings? Can’t seem to find much info on her family, which is strange. I also read her mother is still alive? If I were these family members I’d be so pissed at Nash, feel so bad for them all! It seems really unfair that everyone literally got away with murder here, whether the victims were nice people or not doesn’t matter. It’s not right that Nash is getting away with all of this.

      • criticextraordinaire 5:35 am on October 1, 2013 Permalink | Reply

        A bunch of criminals who made their living selling poison to people conspired to invade The Nash’s house and they discovered that this was a mistake in the worst way possible. I mean, part of me had to admire Ronnie’s chutzpah, but he was in WAY over his head with The Nash. From everything I have read, Eddie did not send anybody over to kill anybody, he just wanted to get his stuff back and to rough them up a little… payback, and then the guys went overboard. According to the movie, they were ALL in on the planning and so they were fair game for retaliation. That’s how it works in the underworld.

    • Beth 8:53 am on September 30, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      Also, is Nash at this point in his life still “feared” by some of these people? Does he have any real “power” now at all? Very surprised someone hasn’t offed him yet actually. He must have zillions of enemies, not just from this case. Amazing that David LInd didn’t do him in!

      • criticextraordinaire 5:42 am on October 1, 2013 Permalink | Reply

        David was so doped up he didn’t even “do Nash and Diles in” when he had the chance and should have (in underworld terms and protocol, that is). If you’re gonna be a criminal, you don’t do what he did to Nash and Diles, leave them alive, and expect no retaliation. Lind indeed was lucky that nobody came after him, but perhaps by that time it was felt that the adequate revenge had already been achieved. Besides, Lind’s testimony was near worthless. All he could testify to was that he committed a stupid home invasion. At the time of the Wonderland murders he was out doing drugs with a hooker at a hotel according to his court testimony. Holmes walked, and even the jury that Nash didn’t bribe acquitted him outright.

        If you’re gonna be in that sort of business and last, you have to be good. Eddie was one of the best at the game.

    • localarts 11:16 am on September 30, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      It’s impossible to say if Eddie still has any “power” If he does, it would be directly related to how lucid his mental faculties are. Remember, were talking about an 84 yo man. He could be suffering from Dementia, Alzheimer’s or other ailments. If however his health is fine, I’m sure Ed could still make a phone call or two.

      It’s actually the other way around. David Lind should consider himself lucky Nash didn’t waste him especially after Lind tried to a lesser degree, humiliate Nash during the second trial. You don’t hang around as long as Eddie Nash without picking and choosing your battles wisely. The biggest mistake Nash made was befriending John Holmes.

      • Beth 12:38 pm on September 30, 2013 Permalink | Reply

        Yep, guess u r right about that! Too bad Nash hadn’t offed Holmes earlier, then a lot of other people would still be alive!

        • criticextraordinaire 5:52 am on October 1, 2013 Permalink

          Eddie had no prior reason to mess with John. He liked hanging around “Johnny Wadd”. John was probably good for business at the clubs as well as Eddie’s parties. I mean, even after the whole Wonderland thing went down, when anybody else in the business simply would have rubbed out John to silence him, Eddie (according to John) gave him money to just go away. Eddie always had a soft spot in his heart for his “brother” John, even when Eddie allegedly had Diles beating the crap out of John to rat out the Wonderland Gang.

          I just wish we could hear Eddie’s side of this story, he certainly could fill in a few blanks. Besides, he’s been acquitted of the murders, and the statute of limitations long ran out for civil lawsuits; he could talk with impunity. Of course it is possible that he’s silent in order to protect some other living persons who were never tried in the murders.

        • Beth 7:10 am on October 1, 2013 Permalink

          You make excellent points! Was thinking last night too, I recall Nash’s testimony or his version of things was that he never intended for people to be murdered, just that if it happened it happened, or something like that. But…..I am guessing Barbara was the first to get hit since she was the one they came to first, and she was asleep, and she was viciously beaten w/ a lead pipe, they meant to kill, not to scare. I know what Eddie’s “story” was, but I think the plan all along was to kill every person there and make it look like John did it, as punishment for him or whatever. It really sucks, wish they had let the women go, or just tied them up and killed the guys. Yes I would love to hear more from Nash! At this point he has nothing to lose, unless he is protecting people like u mentioned.

    • Dawn 7:27 pm on March 23, 2018 Permalink | Reply

      Does anyone know the address in Glendale where JH gave SH his bathtub infestation?

      • Dawn 7:28 pm on March 23, 2018 Permalink | Reply

        Confession. Not infestation.

      • John 9:44 pm on March 23, 2018 Permalink | Reply

        Not that specific house, but I think that may have been an apt anyway..
        It may have been torn down though, just like the apts on Acacia they used to manage. Gone but not forgotten…..

  • John 8:33 am on August 9, 2013 Permalink | Reply
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    The Obituary for Sharon Holmes 

    1959 Yearbook Photo

    1959 Sophomore Yearbook Photo

    Sharon Gebenini

    Haines

    1943-2012

    Sharon Gebenini, 69, died on Oct. 28, 2012, in Haines. 

    A memorial service will be held at Daniels~Knopp Funeral, Cremation & Life Celebration Center at 11 a.m. Saturday.  All are welcome to come and share memories of Sharon.

    Sharon Gebenini was born on June 11, 1943, in Renton, Wash., the daughter of Roy and Betty Ann (Wilson) Gebenini. 

    Her early years were spent there where she was raised by her grandmother, Hattie Wilson, who was the wife of the city’s mayor. Her father was in the Army, and when she was teenager, the family was stationed in Germany, where she attended high school. When the family returned to the United States, she went to California, where she graduated from L.A. County School of Nursing.

    After graduation, she went to work for a Glendale pediatrician, Dr. H. Nuttycombe. She was a caring and devoted nurse and even took the doctor’s calls two nights a week, helping families with emergencies. She spent many hours on the phone advising and reassuring new parents in the care of their new-born babies. 

    Due to her love and devotion to children, she remained in pediatrics, seeing many of her young patients grow up to be parents themselves. 

    She often recruited friends to donate blood to help the terminally ill patients and acted as a second mother to many of them. 

    She was very much a teacher and a nurturer and had a love and respect for life itself. She mentored and gave freely of her knowledge of medicine to new, young nurses, always ready to support their education. She was devoted to her grandmother and moved her to California to live and care for her until her death.

    Always cheerful, she was ready and willing to help others and loved her numerous pet dogs and cats. 

    Survivors include her dear long-time friends, Dawn Schiller of La Grande and Nancy Whalen of San Gabriele, Calif., and other distant relatives. 

    She was preceded in death by her grandparents, parents, an aunt, an uncle and a cousin.  

    In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be given to the non-profit E.S.T.E.A.M. (Empowering Successful Teens through Education, Awareness & Mentoring).

     
    • localarts 10:19 am on August 9, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      Great find! Notice there’s no mention of Holmes.

    • John 11:39 am on August 9, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      In the last 20 years of her life, before moving to Oregon, she lived all over Glendale, at various apartments, a duplex, etc. I thought of doing a photo gallery of residences but it may not be that exciting. Save it for a rainy day type thing.

    • dreamweaverjenn 1:35 pm on August 9, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      She was such an awesome person and amazing woman, I am so glad they didn’t mention her p.o.s. ex husband and that her maiden name was used. R.I.P. Sharon. ❤

      • John W 3:26 pm on August 9, 2013 Permalink | Reply

        John ruined her mentally, romantically and trust-wise for all other men, in that, she never remarried and I wonder if she even dated again. Broke her heart for good.

        • dreamweaverjenn 4:06 pm on August 9, 2013 Permalink

          She was probably afraid to and I can’t say I blame her. She is one woman who REALLY took her marriage vows seriously because I would have divorced him MUCH sooner!

    • Jill C. Nelson 10:42 pm on August 9, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      Sharon had loved John and admiited as much more than a few times in interviews incorporated throughout our book. She said they were very happy together and extremely close in the early years of their marriage. Sharon also admitted that the reason she never remarried is because a part of her still loved Holmes. She gets a lot of credit for being able to remember the good times and was able to rise above and respect the positive parts of her life with John. In particular, John and Sharon’s grandmother had also been close. Sharon liked the fact that they had gotten along. Having said all of that, I believe Sharon remains a bit of an enigma. I firmly believe there was a part of her that did not have an aversion to John’s lifestyle choice if you read between the lines of her interview.

      • brian 5:51 pm on August 30, 2020 Permalink | Reply

        Didn’t Sharon enjoy the money from her husbands career before drug addiction set in? Its unfortunate she married him. He caused those four people to get killed.

        • John 8:55 pm on August 30, 2020 Permalink

          Yes Brian, they never struggled as a married couple with money.. She never wanted for anything, she only wanted John. But in those early days, they also had several miscarriages. He got more distant, and in her outline to writer Mike Sager, she mentions long and lonely walks during this period at Griffith Park and zoo. Not soon after, John met Dawn…

    • dreamweaverjenn 3:49 am on August 12, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      Jill C. Nelson, did you interview Sharon personally? Is this something she told you?

    • localarts 7:41 am on August 12, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      Sharon Holmes said it was eating her guts out.

    • Jill C. Nelson 12:01 pm on August 12, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      Jenn, no we did not interview Sharon personally for our book. When compiling the bio, Jennifer and I had access to Sharon and Dawn’s complete interview transcripts that were used to film WADD — and we used those full interviews (and others) in their entirety to present a more well-rounded picture of things in addition to conducting our own interviews. Much of the material that did not make it into WADD was due to time constraints. Paley told us that five hours of interview material was left on the cutting room floor so that gives you an idea of what was left out.

      Sharon readily admitted that she had loved John, and they were indeed happy, especially during their early years. Even after their relationship ceased being intimate, they still slept together when Holmes was home.

      While incorporating material from the transcripts into our book we read that Sharon had had three miscarriages during the first 17 months of her marriage to Holmes. They had both wanted children, according to Sharon. That information was not included in the WADD documentary, but is a part of the interview transcripts that Sharon did with Paley which we utilized in our book in the first chapter.

      Yes, locolarts, Sharon said John’s career was “eating her guts out” and I definitely believe that’s true, but that statement is only one comment Sharon actually made about her life with John when touching on his adult film career. She also made remarks that would seem she was complicit or at least more accepting of John’s work on some levels than what many people have come to believe and she definitely appreciated the financial benefits of his work — particularly during the mid-late ’70s when Holmes was in his prime as a performer. He routinely handed cash over to Sharon to purchase whatever she needed for their home and she would happily do so. They had an unusual relationship, there is no denying that.

      • dreamweaverjenn 1:07 pm on August 12, 2013 Permalink | Reply

        I can’t help but feel deep sorrow for Sharon. All she wanted was nice, normal, happy home life. I can’t help but think that here is this man that you promised to love, honor, and cherish, he promised to do the same, you are deeply in love, suffer three miscarriages and your husband makes a choice to do this with his life. I try to put myself in Sharon’s shoes and I can’t. I can’t imagine how she must have felt. The kind of pain she surely was in. I feel her almost saying “ok, my husband has made this choice. What in the world am I supposed to do with this?” Sharon did love him and didn’t turn her back on him but that certainly does NOT mean she condoned his lifestyle or accepting of it. I think it probably disgusted, saddened, and disappointed her to no end. How can she have appreciated the financial benefits of his work? Every penny he made went up his nose or into his lungs. He stole anything they had of any value and left her with unimaginable debt. I heard she even was on the verge of homelessness at one point. And as far as the five hours of interviews that ended up on the cutting room floor, I am sure only the “juicy” stuff made it into the WADD film. I pray that Sharon is finally at peace now.

    • localarts 2:46 pm on August 12, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      One thing is for certain after November 1982 Sharon had enough, telling Holmes to “get the fuck out of my life” or something to that effect and on his death bed when Schiller wanted to see Holmes ( according to Dawn she wanted to show John what kind of life she made for herself without him) Sharon told her “he’s not worth it” that pretty much say’s it all.

      • Jill C. Nelson 2:52 pm on August 12, 2013 Permalink | Reply

        “Sharon told her “he’s not worth it” that pretty much say’s it all.”

        That’s true, locolarts. But Sharon also told Cass Paley when he invited her to be a part of WADD years later that she would only agree to participating in an interview about her late husband if Paley was respectful to Holmes and to his memory. That too speaks volumes.

    • Jill C. Nelson 2:46 pm on August 12, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      Jenn, I honestly feel sad for Sharon too, but once she learned John’s true line of work, she could have left him and probably should have. They didn’t even have children binding them. I realize divorce wasn’t as popular a choice back in the ’60s and ’70s but it was a option and people made it. There are many women and men who have worked and who do work in the adult industry, and for some reason, they are able to make their marriages work and sometimes to people who are not in the industry. Working in the adult industry certainly does not make them bad people even if society doesn’t agree with their vocation. I might not have felt that was prior to working on the Holmes book, but my perception has definitely changed. At the same time, it can definitely be a deal breaker.

      As Sharon stated, she loved John and perhaps the reason she stayed with him as long as she did is because of the fact that she remembered their better years because they did exist. John wasn’t always a drug addict — not untl the latter part of their marriage. Before his addiction took hold, John was extremely generous (by all accounts of those who had known him including Sharon). It wasn’t until years later (at least 14 years into their marriage) he spent any money he earned to feed his addiction. Sharon did in fact accept the financial benefits of John’s work just as she accepted his life style choice by remaining married to John and supporting him. Saying and doing are two different things entirely. There were probably a number of reasons why she chose to stick with him and we will never know what they are.

      Sharon was a registered nurse for several years (long after she and John divorced) and should have received a pension for all of the years she honourably served her community. The homeless story remains a mystery.

      • dreamweaverjenn 3:06 pm on August 12, 2013 Permalink | Reply

        Well, I do know it is extremely hard to walk away from someone you love even if you don’t agree with what they are doing. Like I said, I feel she was probably like “Ok, what the heck am I supposed to do with this now?” But to say that she accepted it because she stayed with him I don’t feel is fair. I honestly do not know what I would do. I could sit here all day and say “I would do this or that” but the reality is, I’m not sure. I can only imagine she was devastated and heart broken. Ultimately, when SHE was ready, she made her decision to move on.

        I do believe that before John was on drugs he was a good and generous person. He seemed to be intelligent and was able to do several things. I do not believe that all people in the industry are bad people. If that’s what they choose and it works for them, that’s great. More power to them. I’m not here to judge them. I am particularly disgusted by John because of the drugs and how he hurt the people in his life and then played a part in the murders of four people who he deemed “trash”.

        As far as a nurse getting a pension, that is wishful thinking. My mother is a nurse and is working long after she should have retired and there is no pension. Social Security isn’t enough to live on so it wouldn’t surprise me at all that she was in dire straits.

    • Jill C. Nelson 3:12 pm on August 12, 2013 Permalink | Reply

      “As far as a nurse getting a pension, that is wishful thinking. My mother is a nurse and is working long after she should have retired and there is no pension.”

      I live in Canada, Jenn, so I am not sure about pensions in every state in the U.S. and should have considered that before I typed what I did. My cousin’s wife who resides in Northern California is a nurse and she will receive a pension when she retires so I am guessing it varies from state to state. In Canada, retired nurses receive excellent pensions as do teachers.

      • Jill C. Nelson 3:16 pm on August 12, 2013 Permalink | Reply

        With respect to the rest of what you wrote, Jenn, I agree with much of it. On this forum, I am merely trying to point out that there are many sides to a story and that things are not always the way they appear to be, nor is the information that has been presented in these documentaries, complete. Once again, Sugar and attempted to shed more light on the entire picture including the murders in our Holmes bio. At the end of the day, we’ve left it up to the readers to decide what the truth really is.

    • Carol 1:05 am on June 12, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      I have read a few books about John Holmes, and from what I gathered, Sharon was a remarkable woman. I just found out earlier tonight that she passed away. I am so sorry to hear that because she was truly a saint for all that she put up with. She even took her husband’s underaged lover under her wings and nurtured her to a degree which is unheard of. She was a good wife who didn’t deserve what John put her through. He had a jewel and treated it like a piece of coal. His loss….God Bless you Sharon. I know where you went after death. You probably won’t run into John there.

      • John 12:51 pm on June 14, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        Carol,
        Truer words were never spoken. I feel that John really was the love of her life. After that, what else is there. She was put into a very bizarre situation in the 1960s. Porn today, still has a stigma in society. Imagine the vibe in ’67 or whatever when John said he was doing sex films. This affected her beyond words. It is also the first documented case of a marriage, ruined by porn, ya know.

        • Carol 3:40 pm on June 14, 2014 Permalink

          I’m sure that if she had known ahead of time that he would eventually get into porn, she would have thought twice about marrying him. All she wanted was a simple life with family. I feel that his overly large appendage was a curse not a blessing. He wound dead from AIDS at the age of 42-43. He took with him the burden of all those he hurt, including his involvement either directly or indirectly of the “Wonderland murders. He left a sad legacy behind. And for those who refer to him as “The King, sorry but if have a big johnson makes you a king, then I guess that title doesn’t mean much.

    • Carol 3:57 pm on June 14, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      I was curious about something. In the last book I read, it mentions that Sharon miscarried a few times. I also saw it mentioned several times that John was sterile. If he was sterile, how did Sharon get pregnant in the first place. If anyone has an answer for this, please pass it along to me. Thanks.

    • Jill C. Nelson 9:14 pm on June 15, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Sharon stated in her interview transcripts for “WADD: The Life & Times of John C. Holmes” that she experienced three miscarriages in 17 months shortly after she and John were first married. We used her interview transcripts for our book. We believe Sharon is telng the truth. Dawn Schiller (on her blog), and Laurie Holmes (during our interview) both stated that John was sterile. Laurie said that John had been ill as a boy which had resulted in his sterility. Jennifer and I considered all of the information available to us regarding this subject, conducted our own research, and submitted the following narrative found on page 55 of our book:

      “In fact, John loved children and wanted to be a father, but he was sterile. There are many potential causes of male sterility and today it is known that up to 20 percent of men with a low or no detectable sperm count could be missing genes in the Y chromosome. This means that pregnancy is not only difficult, but this could account for Sharon’s miscarriages because of the genetic defect in any male offspring.”

      Our belief is that it is conceivably possible that John fell into the category of having had a low or no ‘detectable’ sperm count which could mean that he was not technically sterile 30 or more years ago. (It is also possible that John became ‘sterile’ later in years.) Based upon what we learned, the quote cited above could account for Sharon’s miscarriages. After the miscarriages, Sharon said she started using the birth control pill.

      Dawn stated on her blog several years ago that John was sterile. She did not elaborate as to how, when or why except to say that “Sharon had the paperwork.” Again, Laurie told us the same, that John was sterile. Ironically (or maybe not), a still photographer friend of John’s, Kenji, told us that John told him in the mid-1980s that he had a 15 year old daughter living in San Francisco with her mother. If true, that would mean she would have been born around 1970.

      We included all of the information in our book, and ultimately let the readers decide.

      • Carol 11:59 pm on June 15, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        Thanks for getting back to me with that Jill. I have a feeling that if John indeed had a daughter, he would have had her in his life at some point. According to the last book I read, he was always spinning tales about his life, so who would know for sure.I think that in his case, it was just as well that he didn’t become a father. How do you explain to a young child that you are a porn star with a drug habit. Almost certainly Sharon would have had to raise the child on her own. John took everything from her that wasn’t nailed down to feed his addiction. I think that the good Lord in his wisdom saw to it that John would not become a father. And the fact that neither Dawn nor any of the many others he cohabitated with became pregnant, confirms it.

    • Jill C. Nelson 8:00 am on June 16, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      Your point is well taken, Carol, though I think it’s important to remember that John Holmes wasn’t always a drug addict nor was he always a porn star. As Sharon stated in our book, the early years of their marriage were very happy ones.

      When John first entered the world of adult entertainment by happenstance, he was young and naive and he didn’t believe it was going to imprint him the way in which it did. He got swept up in it, just as many young men and women did and still do. Havng grown up with very little, right or wrong, once he got the taste of real money, he was hooked. During the latter part of the 1960s, the sexual revolution was well underway, and millions of young people and couples were attracted to the liberation and freedoms it offered in ways that would change them forever. Some regrettably, some not. Because she loved him, and for other unknown reasons, Sharon went along with John’s newfound vocation though she didn’t agree, rather than kicking him out or leaving him as others might have done. They did not have children binding them, and Sharon was employed full time, so it does make you scratch your head. When he was released from contempt in 1982, John returned to the industry believing he was too old to start over doing something else. Who would have hired him at that point?

      Personally, and after having co-written and written two books centering on people in the adult entertainment industry, I don’t believe that participating in sex films makes someone a “bad” person. But certainly, the choices we make have a ripple effect on everyone around us. Many, many people working as sex performers have spouses and children, and many of them are good parents and good people. Over the last seven years, I’ve had the opportunity to meet several of these folks from the “golden” era as well as their grown children. You might be surprised.

      John was a step-father to Laurie’s young son for five years. Her little boy lived with John and Laurie, and John paid for his private school. He was home with them in the evenings and on weekends. John was not the ravaged drug addict in the 1980s that he was during the latter part of the 1970s, and they were a relatively happy family. He spent a lot of time with his step-son, reading to him, taking him on hikes, to the movies, and teaching him how to fish. Today, Laurie’s son is 34 years old, married, and successful in his work and in life. He still remembers John fondly and misses him. There were certain things disclosed to us that we couldn’t share in the book, but John’s presence in Laurie’s young son’s life definitely made a positive difference.

      You’re probably right in saying that if Sharon and John had had children, Sharon would have undoubtedly raised them on her own. On the other hand, maybe not. There is more to their story that we will never know.

      • Carol 5:18 pm on June 16, 2014 Permalink | Reply

        Well it’s funny that you are singing praises about John because I too believe after reading the last book, “A life measured in inches”, that he did have some desirable qualities. The first book I read, “The road through wonderland,” left me with the impression that this man had absolutely no heart at all. I read the second one because I just had to know if John had a soul. The second book which is made up of mostly narratives and quotes from people in the industry, detectives, and his wives, left me with a better feeling about him. Of course they didn’t whitewash his faults which were many, but it wasn’t all bad. It seems that many people found him charming and a kind man. And no, I don’t believe that he would have necessarily made a bad father just because he was involved with porn. Who knows what choices he would have made if Sharon had carried to term. It might have been totally different. I think one of the things that bothers me the most is how he took advantage of Dawn when she was so young and vulnerable. If he did have a daughter, how would he have liked that happening to a child of his? All I can say is, I hope he made peace with God and he is at rest.

    • Jill C. Nelson 8:46 pm on June 16, 2014 Permalink | Reply

      I believe that everybody possesses desirable and undesirable qualities. Some happen to be more extreme than others. Laurie Holmes has said many times that her late husband was not a saint and that’s an understatement. John could be controlling, manipulative, and used poor judgement about many aspects of his life. I’ve said this countless times, but as the co-biographer of “Inches,” the trick in telling Holmes’s story was balancing his less than stellar periods with some of his finer moments. We received an education by talking to many people who were a part of his life. Every time we thought we finally had a bead on John, somebody would share something new which would move us in a different direction.

      I think it’s safe to say that we all bring our own histories and personal experiences to this story. Those histories influence and impact our feelings about all of the folks involved. And that’s okay.

    • Marty Fox 3:47 am on February 8, 2016 Permalink | Reply

      How did Sharon end up homeless around 2006?
      She was a strong-willed woman. She was a qualified nurse.
      I hope her last years away from LA, were peaceful and introspective.
      You can’t blame John for everything, he had a disfunctional family too (alcoholic Spanish father, manic-depressive, crazy Jewish step-father, who deliberately cut off his hand, so he could sue and not work again).
      Laurie Holmes way of cremating John’s ashes and “chucking” them into the Pacific, angered many of John’s other friends and mid western relatives.
      Laurie claims that was John’s “last wishes” , but was it really?
      John was the boy “who never really grew up”.
      Some people claim he was the same actor who played Eddie Haskell, on “Leave it to Beaver”, who also went into the porn-adult film business, later on.

    • JohnnyFan 8:17 pm on April 8, 2016 Permalink | Reply

      I still say that Johnny Wadd was the man. Sharon obviously felt the same and that’s why she stayed with him, and then protected his legacy after he died.

    • N 8:11 pm on May 12, 2016 Permalink | Reply

      Big ups to Dawn, also, because she took care of Sharon, for some years also…

      • Carol 10:00 pm on May 25, 2016 Permalink | Reply

        I believe that Dawn was just a pawn in John’s life for the most part. I got the impression that she was a good person who was just too young to understand John’s true motives. She came from dysfunction, and was vulnerable. Sharon was good to Dawn in spite of the situation with John. How many women would have taken her in under those circumstances? I believe that Dawn forged a strong relationship with Sharon. I am happy to hear that Dawn repaid her kindness.

    • Barbara McCurry 1:06 am on November 23, 2017 Permalink | Reply

      I’m impressed that some people had differences of opinion but were respectful to each other in their replies. There was no name calling and no hateful comments.

    • John 4:19 pm on August 30, 2020 Permalink | Reply

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